Assalamu 3alaykum,
I'm trying to live up to my promise to continuously keep on blogging, the positive feedback is definitely encouraging! Thank u :)
A certain topic I raised earlier in the year was guys and how I thought some think they are ready for marriage, but they're definitely not because they get "bored" or something along those lines. I never expect to meet the perfect guy, I've accepted that he doesn't exist. :p jk. I know we all make mistakes but from what I had seen at the particular time of my post, it did make me question some guys intention when a girl thought they were interested in marriage.
I'm a strong believer in "it takes two to tango". Meaning most situations I've seen, both parties could have played their cards a little better acknowledging at the same time, that no-one is perfect and you can't put the full blame on just the guy or the girl. So, yes guys can be stupid, but so can girls (believe it or not :P) So while I may feel like venting out some anger towards males in general, I want to make it clear that females would probably be guilty of doing stupid things a lot of the time too.
I just felt like writing that.. I think it's obvious why.. lol
So anyway, less talking, more blogging!
I went to an ALL sisters charity dinner tonight, I must say it was quite enjoyable. I can't remember with the previous ones I've been to very well, but this one was great alhamdulilah. If you're single and a sister, be prepared to meet some potential in-laws!! I've heard many brothers who are interested in marriage like sending their mothers, sisters and family friends alike to these kind of events to "hook them up". Is this true?! I wouldn't be surprised.. hehe.
I actually got two "omg! I can't believe your single?" comments from some sisters. I was a bit confused as I didn't know whether to take that as a compliment or what? I know I'm not old but it's weird how everyone just expects you to be married all of a sudden.. Yeh I wouldn't mind getting married if the right person came along but I wouldn't just settle for anyone who comes a knockin. It was a bit weird I must say and I kind of don't know what comes out of saying that to someone. I'm reading too much into it I know..
I was thinking that when I made this blog, I thought of it was more as a diary to express myself. As a teenager, one of the main hot-topics that would always get us going was marriage so I thought I'd let out those thoughts, it really clears up my mind. It's good writing at night, which is what I think I've always done. I go to sleep with a lot taken off my chest. Good feeling it is.
Hope I made sense today.. Take care - wassalam.
Friday, October 19, 2007
Monday, October 15, 2007
7 months later..
Assalamu 3alaykum
So yes, it's been a while! The year is almost over, the year that feels like one of the fastest in my life. I have a feeling this trend will only increase though. Ramadan has come and gone, I know I could have made so much more use of the blessed month. I guess it's not as easy as everyone makes it out to be, you really need to put in the effort. Best part is, you do feel the blessing in it mashaAllah. The third day of Eid has passed as well, Eid Mubarak to all the Muslimeen out there. May Allah accept our deeds, ameen.
Not much has been happening on my end, and my life hasn't really changed that drastically. Reading through my old posts I do have a *few* updates. Such as going into my teaching degree, alhamdulilah it was a good decision and I'm really glad I'm enjoying it. Only 3 more years to go inshaAllah. As for me going to the gym, I admit that I have slacked off and wasted a good amount of money by not going. It's unbelievable how easy it is to stop going, I feel really guilty. I need more motivation, big time. Hopefully I'll be going again soon! Or else my parents are going to kill me. :P
So yeh what else, I've thought about this blog a bit recently. I needed that avenue to let out my lovely thoughts. Eventually, no matter what you friends say, it does get boring hearing someone constantly whinge about their boring life. Ok, so I admit I'm not that bad and I don't complain that much but still, I hate being the friend who just talks about herself all the time. So this way, I'm only expressing my thoughts to those who are in the mood to know. Make sense? I hope so! lol
I got really annoyed today, maybe it's because I have so many high expectations of those around me. Especcially those whom I look at and think are so "wise" and "religious". Possibly another reason backbiting is haram, when you find out certain things about people even though they are true it really changes your whole perception about them and people who seem like them too. It's really sad, and although I try not to care about how others handle their life, I can't help it. I just think, what if that were me? Why did they do that? It even gets to the point that my friends point out I shouldn't be concerned, yet for some reason I feel I am. These are my brothers and sisters in Islam, despite how well I might or might not know them. Maybe it's here that I can learn from their mistakes even though one learns best from their own.
It's been a huge year though, so many people have gotten married, divorce, had children and died.. You look back and think, wow! In one way or another it does affect who we are and does play *some* influence in our lives. Like when your friends get married or engaged and even divorced. I hate divorce, and I make du`a that I am never put in such a trial in my life. Not because of anything in particular, but I've seen what it has done to so many people around me. Be it one of the spouses or most importantly the children of the couple. Marriage is so serious, but today I see it as a process which isn't given as much thought as it should be and people are just doing it for the sake of it.
Then again, maybe that's just one's naseeb. Does anyone really get into a marriage knowing they will get divorced. You sign that paper knowing you're going to spend the rest of your life with that person, the last thing you want is to have to leave each other, right? Or am I wrong. Are they the intentions of our fellow brothers and sisters seeking marriage? I'd like to hope so..
Is it bad wanting to find the partner right for you, or as a female letting that partner find you? Ofcourse not, then why does it seem so. I wouldn't have a clue. Maybe it's not the case, and maybe it is. Depends on the culture you're from I guess. It can be like that in mine though.
I know I haven't made up for 7 months of posting, but inshaAllah I'll keep this lovely blog in mind more often. It's been good speaking to myself, or anyone out there reading. If you are reading, don't hesitate to comment or keep on reading. InshaAllah I won't take too long posting again.
Till next time, take care.
wassalam..
So yes, it's been a while! The year is almost over, the year that feels like one of the fastest in my life. I have a feeling this trend will only increase though. Ramadan has come and gone, I know I could have made so much more use of the blessed month. I guess it's not as easy as everyone makes it out to be, you really need to put in the effort. Best part is, you do feel the blessing in it mashaAllah. The third day of Eid has passed as well, Eid Mubarak to all the Muslimeen out there. May Allah accept our deeds, ameen.
Not much has been happening on my end, and my life hasn't really changed that drastically. Reading through my old posts I do have a *few* updates. Such as going into my teaching degree, alhamdulilah it was a good decision and I'm really glad I'm enjoying it. Only 3 more years to go inshaAllah. As for me going to the gym, I admit that I have slacked off and wasted a good amount of money by not going. It's unbelievable how easy it is to stop going, I feel really guilty. I need more motivation, big time. Hopefully I'll be going again soon! Or else my parents are going to kill me. :P
So yeh what else, I've thought about this blog a bit recently. I needed that avenue to let out my lovely thoughts. Eventually, no matter what you friends say, it does get boring hearing someone constantly whinge about their boring life. Ok, so I admit I'm not that bad and I don't complain that much but still, I hate being the friend who just talks about herself all the time. So this way, I'm only expressing my thoughts to those who are in the mood to know. Make sense? I hope so! lol
I got really annoyed today, maybe it's because I have so many high expectations of those around me. Especcially those whom I look at and think are so "wise" and "religious". Possibly another reason backbiting is haram, when you find out certain things about people even though they are true it really changes your whole perception about them and people who seem like them too. It's really sad, and although I try not to care about how others handle their life, I can't help it. I just think, what if that were me? Why did they do that? It even gets to the point that my friends point out I shouldn't be concerned, yet for some reason I feel I am. These are my brothers and sisters in Islam, despite how well I might or might not know them. Maybe it's here that I can learn from their mistakes even though one learns best from their own.
It's been a huge year though, so many people have gotten married, divorce, had children and died.. You look back and think, wow! In one way or another it does affect who we are and does play *some* influence in our lives. Like when your friends get married or engaged and even divorced. I hate divorce, and I make du`a that I am never put in such a trial in my life. Not because of anything in particular, but I've seen what it has done to so many people around me. Be it one of the spouses or most importantly the children of the couple. Marriage is so serious, but today I see it as a process which isn't given as much thought as it should be and people are just doing it for the sake of it.
Then again, maybe that's just one's naseeb. Does anyone really get into a marriage knowing they will get divorced. You sign that paper knowing you're going to spend the rest of your life with that person, the last thing you want is to have to leave each other, right? Or am I wrong. Are they the intentions of our fellow brothers and sisters seeking marriage? I'd like to hope so..
Is it bad wanting to find the partner right for you, or as a female letting that partner find you? Ofcourse not, then why does it seem so. I wouldn't have a clue. Maybe it's not the case, and maybe it is. Depends on the culture you're from I guess. It can be like that in mine though.
I know I haven't made up for 7 months of posting, but inshaAllah I'll keep this lovely blog in mind more often. It's been good speaking to myself, or anyone out there reading. If you are reading, don't hesitate to comment or keep on reading. InshaAllah I won't take too long posting again.
Till next time, take care.
wassalam..
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