Just friends

Salamz,

So I watching a movie the other day with my parents, it was an Egyptian movie to be exact. After watching a few series with them I've been able to finally understand that dialect better! alhamdulilah.

Just a quick run through about this specific movie. It was about this married man who is suffering from an illness so leaves his family for further treatment. At the hospital he stays at, he meets another female sufferer and they become very close friends. She being single, incidently falls in love with this married man. Anyway his wife finds out where he is and there is a huge fight etc. But he returns to his wife and dies not long after. The girl who he fell in love with was very mature about the situation and although she was hurt, preferred he return to his wife and son.

It was a good movie but whilst watching it, my mother made a comment in Arabic which I will translate.

"It's impossible for a man and a woman to be close friends, without atleast one of them slipping"

Slipping meaning, falling in love with the other friend. It happens with both falling in love as well. I didn't really disagree with my mum. I felt she was actually right.

I don't have male friends who I share a very close relationship with, but I do think the more time you spend with someone of the opposite gender, the more likely you will have strong feelings that will form between you. Remember the hadith, that whenever a male and a female are alone, the shaytaan is there as the third. How scary is that?

I know we're only human, but we should also be able to have self control over who we befriend, right? The are times where a certain situation brings you to work quite closely with someone of the opposite gender, but don't let the shaytan get the better of us I guess. It's almost impossible today, especially in the west, to be in contact with only the same gender. As muslims, it needs to be done with self respect and NO flirting.

It's very easy to slip.

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Akh.. Hello my blog...

I really don't know how I'm going to start this post today and I'm telling you all now I have no clue how it will end.

Just came back from a small 3 day holiday with my siblings and nephews. It's funny how they're meant to be so relaxing, yet you spend so much time sight seeing and visiting various places that you don't even get time to do that at all. I needed a few days to actually recover! But it was great overall and will probably be my last outing before Uni starts in a few weeks inshaAllah.

Other than that, just been bumming around the house not really doing anything exciting. I've had plenty of time to reflect upon myself and hopefully start working on making some changes. Such as talk less and listen more, be more selfless, be more considerate and become a better Muslim role model. I really want to work on these few things and probably a few more, I really hope they're not put off because they're very important factors that are vital for a good character and that's what I want.

Sometimes I think about how one day I will become a wife, then a mother and what I tend to is look at others who are living those very roles right now. I wonder if I will ever be able to become like my own mother, the way she takes care of us all is truly amazing and deep down it's scary to think about. What if I cannot meet up to these standards, will it make me a failure? What can I do now to help me later on? Just a few thoughts that have been coming to mind..

Then my mind also goes off to wonder about the husband/father role and how not all woman understand what they are going through and the pressure and stress they worry about. Working tirelessly to provide for their wife and kids and help secure a future for them. Seeing my own father worry really saddens me, as his situation is sometimes easily looked over. Even though my parents worked most of their life securing some kind of future for us, I want them to make the most of what they have instead of always worrying about us, the "future".

We shouldn't have the mentality that we are going to live forever, so live in the moments we have now and enjoy them in a way that is pleasing to Rab al 3alameen.

I hope to start a family one day, with the will of Allah swt. But I can't help but wonder when.